Act like a woman ....think like a what?!

In the name of truth.
It is my observation that destructive schools of thought or trendy beliefs sold by Hollywood and many other proponents-certain feminist /chauvinist ideals undermine the verry essence of what Manhood and Womanhood is about.Why should I have to think like a man?
Are'nt we supposed to harmonize yet respect each other's right to express his and herself within the context of gender and beyond?As a woman growing in awareness,my concept of love has change from control to release,and has enabled me to stand stronger in my skin,hence am able to discern better what it is a man wants from me and I from him,it has saved me alot of errors.
Woman -as i am learning,walks in the strength of her self,and though she does not need Man to dominate her ,She is his equal.She does not need to control Man.Man and Woman balance the scales of energy.
So when we teach our young girls and boys to demean eachother what is left in years to come not an increase in the very thing thing we dont want?