What Black men Want and NeedLove, Devotion and Respect, that’s what black men need, along with a little kindness
From someone who cares for them and believes in them.
Black men also need to be touched and held and played with affectionately. What
Their father had with their mothers is what they want. And just what was that?
Love, devotion, respect and kindness from someone who cared about him
And believed in him. Black men need and want security and unconditional love
They knew as a child.
They also want to feel that same sense of companionship and of feeling needed.
What they also need and want is to be thought of as human beings rather than
Things.Every body else seems to be a part of the human race except the black man.
It is almost like he is a species all unto himself.
Hardly anyone understands him, and typically where there is the unknown,
There is fear. Nobody knows him, so nobody trusts him.
Needless to say, a racist white male dominated society has done its fair share
To perpetuate as well as traumatize that perception.
Today’s black man also needs to have society’s expectations of him reassessed.
Instead of being criticized for what he is not doing, he needs to be praised for all he
Has done, in spite of the overwhelming obstacles he has had to overcome.
For example, black men are blamed for not working, when they are not the ones
Doing the hiring.
Black men are accused of being lazy, worthless no accounts, when their blood and
Sweat built this country.
Those who wanted no parts of work said that he was trifling and the label stuck.
Today sociologists and psychologists caution us about putting our children down,
Ridiculing them because of the possible adverse effects.
Black men in America have been put down for over 300 years, by almost everyone.
Even his own ally, the black woman, has bought into this myth.
That person with whom he once shared love, devotion, and respect is all too often
His enemy too.
If you tell a child, “Your nothing but a trouble maker” or “You’re never going’ to
Amount to anything,” he may not.
These are the messages black men have always gotten.
In whatever form, one more thing black men want and need is companionship,
A partner.
They need someone to do things with, someone they can take trips with, wine and
Dine, share dreams with, or just sit around and watch television.
They want and need a loyal friend with whom they can share that satisfying relationship.
Good Black hot sex for me, were those wonderful moments when I found myself cradled
In my lady’s
Arms, with her leg draped over mine, falling asleep together.
I'm sure that is what some other black men may want and need, too.
And black woman, if you aren’t in position to give that, still show him that you care
And let him show you that he cares.
“GIVE A BLACK MAN A GREAT BIG HUG TODAY!”Add these books to your library
Ancient Future by Wayne B. Chandler
Women Leaders in African History by David Sweetman
Visions for Black men by Na'im Akbar 
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