On self and community expectations

[Nakandi]

''Being the first daughter of an African family comes with many rewards: constant praise just for being the first girl, early leadership training due to your parents believing (for the mere fact that you were born first) that you can handle anything, doting Aunties, Grandmothers, and community members the instant they hear your name, and first dibs at every aspect of family life, including the stew pot, Christmas presents, and parenting mistakes.''

http://www.spectraspeaks.com/2012/08/love-and-afrofeminism-is-the-self-care-movement-individualist-or-revolutionary/