About The Blackwoman Read It Before She Does#1

About The Blackwoman Read It Before She Does

Before I begin this post I would like to thank everyone for their response
To my previous threads.

WARNING
The information in this post may not be suitable for all readers.
Reader discretions are advised.

When I was a child sometimes I would get sick from colds the first thing my
Mother would suggest was a medicine named castor oil I hated that stuff.

It was Horrible and hard to hold down to make things worse she would heat
It up.
But once I got it down and it went threw out my little body I had to have
Elimination, afterwards I was good as new running, jumping, playing,
And fighting.

And so it is with Blackmen and Blackwomen we must both take the medicine
Of understanding so we can have elimination and unite stronger than ever.

This month the men have taken theirs now it is time for the ladies
We will start with her childhood.

From the very first moment she’s born she becomes attached to her first teacher-
Her mother.
Her eyes study her mother constantly during the initial bonding process, she learns to
Smile and form other mutual communication techniques.
She, as with any other club, is taught survival skills; how to eat, dress, bathe, use the
Toilet, general manners and obedience- most implied by a look, or spoken in a certain
Tone of voice.

She is able to understand the language long before she can speak it. She never stops
Studying her mother. And she never stops learning from her.

If she is raised by two parents she studies them both, since she is with the mother, or
Other females, she learns to tune in to them emotionally.
She learns to observe the other adults in the same way.

She can detect when they are happy, at peace, or sadly restrained or mad. She also pays
Attention to how her mother treats her father. She learn glances, body language and moods. The spoken and unspoken messages that her mother displays.

As the cub, she mimics and includes these practices, right or wrong, as part of her survival skills from the very start. She overhears conversations that her mother has with her friends or relatives pertaining to the father.

If all of the mother’s comments are supportive and positive-good, but since the habit of gaming on the Blackman is a 400 year old tradition here, the inflections are for the most
Part negative.

She listens and she records. The first mental tapes translate into pictures and forms
And they cannot be erased- at least not for many years.
What she overhears as a small child may go something like this:
“I don’t care what your father said I said…”
“He don’t know what he is talking about”
“I’ve got to cook and clean up this house before your father gets home because I
don’t want to hear his mouth.”
“Your father don’t run this house, I do.”
“He doesn’t know that I know.”
“He doesn’t know what he’s doing.”

“John makes me sick; I get tired of picking up behind him.”

If father requests something she may hear the mother say” get it yourself,” or you don’t
Tell me what to do.”

Every mother is guilty of using these or similar terminology about her husband when
She is tired, exasperated or angry during the girl child’s upbringing.
The training message from mother (the teacher) is;
1.   the Blackman “don’t know”
2.   Certain reference to the Blackman is made only behind his back.
3.   A woman has the option to choose what she wants to obey.
4.   A man is a bother.
While the aforementioned statement examples may seem trite or unimportant remember
That they are of great significance since they are part of the first introductory impressions
On the girl child about the Blackman who is usually not present to defend himself or
Prove that the charges are not true. To the girl child these impressions represent the pure
Truth from the person who takes care of her. Her mother.

In the two parent home the girl child has an easier time learning how to “charm” the father and get him to cooperate with her and grant her wishes. She adopts these skills to
Manipulate a person whom she already believes is not too swift mentally-according to mom. She also sees that the father will give the mother a verbal order and later she sees
The mother do something else different or in direct opposition.

She also learns the politics of female survival regarding chastisement. If the father tells her to do something or reprimands her, she finds that she can go to mother and get the ruling changed or omitted completely.

Above all, she can usually get sympathy from the mother in words, or even more powerful-from her mother’s eyes which say:
“Do it, you know how he is,”
Or I will make it up later” I agree with you, he’s wrong, but do it anyway.”
In either case the father’s word is deemed questionable and should be examined and verified to determine if it’s wrong. Also that his word can be opposed or rejected successfully.

THIS IS HOW SHE WAS MADE.

CONCLUSION
The above process is what and how she is made she carries the thoughts and actions into
Adult life the above information can be found in can be found in the book
The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman by shahrazad Ali